Award-Winning Author.
Coach. Speaker.
Helping survivors of narcissistic abuse reclaim their power.
Overall Nonfiction — First Prize
Selected from 1,000+ submissions across fiction and nonfiction · May 2026
Daniel de Llano is an award-winning author, certified coach and hypnotherapist, specialized in narcissistic abuse and emotional manipulation recovery. Born in the south of Spain, he has spent years working at the intersection of trauma, identity, and personal transformation — with women and LGBTQ+ survivors who were told their pain wasn't real.
His work was born from both personal experience and deep professional training. As a gay man who survived narcissistic abuse, and as someone raised surrounded by women whose stories shaped him, he brings a rare dual perspective: he knows what it is to be dismissed as a queer victim, and he knows what it is to watch the women he loves be slowly diminished by those who should have protected them.
He is the founder of IPSAR — Institute for Research, Prevention and Recovery from Relational Abuse, based in Spain, and a speaker at the First International Congress on Narcissistic Abuse in Spanish. His three books have established him as a distinctive voice at the crossroads of queer experience, emotional abuse, and recovery.
"I didn't want to write a testimonial about how my life got slowly destroyed. I wanted to create the resource I needed — and couldn't find — when I was the one who needed saving."
The Sparkle Trap
Recognizing, Escaping, and Healing from Narcissistic Abuse in LGBTQ+ Love
One of very few books addressing narcissistic abuse specifically within LGBTQ+ relationships — the patterns that keep it invisible, the dynamics that make it uniquely devastating, and the path toward reclaiming your power.
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Interconnected
Sex, Dopamine, and Us
A raw, fast-paced, and deeply personal exploration of gay desire, dopamine, hookup culture, chemsex, body expectations… and the silent moments that follow the noise.
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Tu Brillo en Vena
Reconocer, "Escapar" y Sanar del abuso narcisista en el amor LGBTQ+
The first book in Spanish on narcissistic abuse in LGBTQ+ relationships — an adaptation of The Sparkle Trap for Spanish-speaking survivors who have been waiting for this resource.
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